The Versions Of You That Never Were
I found an old university application form last week, tucked inside a book I hadn’t opened in years. The course I’d nearly applied for: astrophysics. …
Why Good Relationships Are Boring
Movies lied to us about love. They told us the goal was passion, intensity, drama. They told us relationships should be fireworks and racing hearts …
Why Getting What You Want Won’t Make You Happy
You think: if I just get that promotion, I’ll be happy. If I just lose 20 pounds, I’ll be confident. If I just meet the …
On Becoming Unrecognisable To Yourself
My father once told me he barely recognised the person he was at twenty-five. Not in a proud, look-how-far-I’ve-come way. More like describing a stranger …
The Vanishing Act Of Being Nobody
Walk through any coffee shop today and you’ll witness a curious phenomenon: people performing their lives rather than living them. The barista isn’t just making …
Why We’re All Living Someone Else’s Life
There’s a man in Tokyo who spent twenty years becoming a lawyer because his father was a lawyer. He makes excellent money. He hates every …
Why Your Physical Health Is Actually Mental Health
We treat the mind and body like they’re separate things. We go to therapists for our minds and doctors for our bodies and act like …