Why Your Friends Don’t Owe You Anything
We’ve all been there. You help a friend move, loan them money, talk them through a breakup at 2 AM, and then when you need …
You Don’t Find Your Passion, You Build It
We’re obsessed with finding our passion, as if it’s buried treasure waiting to be discovered. We take personality tests, read career advice, soul-search, and stress …
The Loneliness Paradox
Here’s something weird about modern life. We have more ways to connect than ever before. We can video chat with someone on the other side …
Comfortable With Discomfort
We’ve engineered discomfort out of life. Uncomfortable temperature? Adjust the thermostat. Uncomfortable conversation? Change the subject. Uncomfortable emotion? Scroll until it goes away. We treat …
Why Your Biggest Setback Is The Biggest Gift In Your Life
Nobody wants to hear that their suffering has a purpose. When you’re in it, when you’ve just lost your job or your relationship has ended …
Why Everyone Thinks They’re Openminded (But Almost Nobody Is)
Ask anyone if they’re open-minded and they’ll say yes. We all think we’re reasonable, willing to change our minds, guided by evidence. Then we encounter …
The Problem With “Do What You Love”
“Do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life” might be the most destructive career advice ever popularized. It sounds inspiring. …
Why Getting What You Want Won’t Make You Happy
You think: if I just get that promotion, I’ll be happy. If I just lose 20 pounds, I’ll be confident. If I just meet the …
How Social Media Destroys You
Social media has turned comparison into a full-time job. You’re not just comparing yourself to your peers anymore. You’re comparing yourself to everyone, everywhere, all …
The Paradox Of Self-Care
The wellness industry has convinced us that if we just do enough self-care, we’ll feel great all the time. Meditation, green juice, crystals, gratitude journals, …